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More with Deidra and Damon

January 23, 2017 · Duration: 18:14 · Play

In episode 9 – Under a Cloud of Loss – we met Deidra and Damon Doughty Gochneaur. Deidra’s mother and father were shot to death in 1977, and Damon never got to meet his grandparents. We spent a lot of time talking with Deidra and Damon, but couldn’t use all of the great stuff that […]

Is It OK?

January 16, 2017 · Duration: 19:27 · Play

A few weeks ago a listener sent in a question about whether or not it’s OK that she doesn’t feel OK, even though her family has recovered from trauma and is doing OK. We thought that the best way to answer Alysha-Aubrey’s question was to ask it of you, the audience. And you had so much to say.

A Letter to Pear

January 9, 2017 · Duration: 16:47 · Play

A father reads a message to the baby he never got to meet. He gets to say all the things that the baby never got to hear – the expectations, anticipation, and deep sadness over losing a child.

Least Favorite Holidays

December 19, 2016 · Duration: 23:55 · Play

We asked you to submit your stories of the worst/craziest/darkest holidays you’ve experienced, and ooooooh goodness did you come through. We had a bunch of people send in their stories of downright terrible holidays. We didn’t have time to use them all, but we put together this special episode of your stories.

More with Dr. Lucy Kalanithi

December 12, 2016 · Duration: 18:04 · Play

We recorded a lot of tape with Dr. Lucy Kalanithi, the widow of Dr. Paul Kalanithi, the author of the bestselling book When Breath Becomes Air. Lucy and Nora’s conversation went everywhere, and we wanted to share more of it with you than we could fit in the show. So here – just for you – are some extra bits of their conversation where they discuss the role of a partner while they care for a dying loved one, and the impulsiveness of widowhood.

19 Hours Ago

December 5, 2016 · Duration: 30:24 · Play

Grief is always fresh for someone, somewhere. Right now, someone is losing a friend. A partner. A parent. And they are entering a new role, a new relationship to their loved one, and to the world. Holly felt that grief. And she came in to share it with us. Fresh and undiluted. Just hours into […]

The Constant Burning Sadness

November 23, 2016 · Duration: 8:28 · Play

When Nora’s husband and father died, Claire wrote her a letter. Claire said that her father and brother had died within a few months of each other, too. And that now, years later, she envied the fresh grief that Nora was experiencing. Because the pain of that grief keeps the people alive. And Claire was […]