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You know how every day someone asks “how are you?” And even if you’re totally dying inside, you just say “fine,” so everyone can go about their day? This show is the opposite of that. Hosted by author (It's Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool Too)) and notable widow (her words) Nora McInerny, this is a funny/sad/uncomfortable podcast about talking honestly about our pain, our awkwardness, and our humanness, which is not an actual word.


Episode #TTFA Mini-Season Ep 6: 19 Hours Ago

April 25, 2017 · Duration: 40:54 · Play

Grief is always fresh for someone, somewhere. Right now, someone is losing a friend. A partner. A parent. And they are entering a new role, a new relationship to their loved one, and to the world. Holly felt that grief. And she came in to share it with us. Fresh and undiluted. Just hours into […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season Ep 5: To Michael

April 17, 2017 · Duration: 19:24 · Play

When someone dies, you’re supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to summarize this person, prove that they existed, that they mattered. But what do you say when a complicated person dies after a complicated life?

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season Ep 4: Is It OK?

April 10, 2017 · Duration: 21:21 · Play

Alysha-Aubrey sent us a story about both her parents falling seriously ill at the same time, and the toll it took on her as a teenager. And she ended her story with a question about whether or not it’s OK that she doesn’t feel OK. Even though her family has recovered from trauma and is doing OK. […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season Ep 3: #trypod with The Hilarious World of Depression

March 27, 2017 · Duration: 45:49 · Play

March is #trypod month, where everyone should force their loved ones to listen to podcasts. Not sure which one to subscribe every family member to? Well, we have one for you. It’s called the The Hilarious World of Depression, and it features open, honest conversations about depression. But funny. Because the guests are professional comedians […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season: Are You Up?

March 14, 2017 · Duration: 44:21 · Play

It’s 12:00. No, 1:00. No, 4:45 in the morning. You should be sleeping — we all should be — but you’re not. You’re laying there as the minutes tick away, thinking about…what, exactly? One sleepless night, Nora took to Twitter to see what was keeping you up. And you answered. This is an episode made […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season: Not The Bummer Olympics

March 6, 2017 · Duration: 15:01 · Play

So many people start off their stories by saying that it doesn’t compare to what happened to someone else. But this isn’t a game of Who Has It Worse, so why do we act like there is some sort of imaginary yardstick for struggling? This is the first episode of our in-between season while we […]

Episode #10: Semper Fi

January 30, 2017 · Duration: 36:42 · Play

When Nora McInerny’s dad died, she lost his stories. The ones that she’s not sure she can can’t quite remember right, and the ones she never knew. Like those from his time as a Recon Marine in Vietnam. So Nora decides to look up some of the men he served with, and discovers one day […]

Episode #9: Under a Cloud of Loss

January 23, 2017 · Duration: 47:23 · Play

Damon’s grandparents were murdered 18 months before he was born. And, for the first time in his life, he prepares to see his grandparents’ murderer face to face.

Episode #8: The Middle Place

January 16, 2017 · Duration: 34:10 · Play

For most of us, death is scary. And what happens next is just as mysterious. But what if we could see death as something beautiful? Or holy? Sarah Gottfried and Heather Olson share their experiences of being with people who are transitioning from this world to whatever comes next.

Episode #7: Unbroken

January 9, 2017 · Duration: 45:19 · Play

Sexual violence thrives in silence, and it’s hard to talk about…so we don’t. But rape survivor Sarah Super refuses to be quiet, and has dedicated her life to helping other survivors Break the Silence.

Episode #6: A Henry Sky

January 2, 2017 · Duration: 40:56 · Play

Colleen Barton is a pediatrician, a wife, and a mother to a beautiful son named Henry. Since Henry’s stillbirth, Colleen and her husband have been working to build their family while dealing with miscarriage and secondary infertility.

Episode #5: Help Me Remember

December 26, 2016 · Duration: 41:20 · Play

Dawn Pereda is a nurse who was injured by a patient while working. And this injury resulted in a brain injury that has changed her life completely. Dawn and her family open up about what it can be like living with Traumatic Brain Injury, grieving for the person they used to know while getting to know the person who is here now.

Episode #4: Me, Too

December 19, 2016 · Duration: 39:57 · Play

Danni Starr had everything she wanted: an enviable career, a husband, and, finally…her first baby. But off the air, motherhood wasn’t what she expected it to be. She had taken all the classes, read all the books, bought all the stuff…but nothing had prepared her for what was to come.

Episode #3: Happy(ish) Holidays

December 12, 2016 · Duration: 53:07 · Play

Two days after Nora’s husband Aaron died, she celebrated Thanksgiving with her family. Well…maybe not “celebrated.” Actually, why would you do that? Try to be normal when clearly everything isn’t?

But every year millions of people do the same thing during the holidays. This week we are going to talk with some of those folks, including Dr. Lucy Kalanithi and comedian Amber Tozer. We’ll also spend some time with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club, talking about their hopes and dreams for the upcoming year. Plus, stories of some of the worst holidays ever. That’s for real. Worst. Ever.

Episode #2: I’ve Made a Huge Mistake

December 5, 2016 · Duration: 47:12 · Play

The year is 2007. Eva Hagberg is a 20-something writer snagging bylines in the New York Times by day, and partying herself stupid by night. It’s all going great, until she gets her big break, and her big breakdown…

Episode #1: In Love and Memory

November 28, 2016 · Duration: 38:07 · Play

Toddlers Ralphie and Bronson have lived most of their young lives with dead fathers. Their mothers – Nora and Moe Richardson – struggle to understand how to help their boys remember the dads they won’t know directly. And as they worry about what long-term effect the losses will have on the kids, Nora seeks perspective from Ambra Markos, whose mother died when Ambra was 2.