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You know how every day someone asks “how are you?” And even if you’re totally dying inside, you just say “fine,” so everyone can go about their day? This show is the opposite of that. Hosted by author (It's Okay to Laugh (Crying Is Cool Too)) and notable widow (her words) Nora McInerny, this is a funny/sad/uncomfortable podcast about talking honestly about our pain, our awkwardness, and our humanness, which is not an actual word.


Episode #27: The Use of These Memories

February 20, 2018 · Duration: 35:48 · Play

There’s a thin line between life and death. Between what’s here — now — and what was. Between what’s here — now — and what will be. Taz Ahmed knows about that line. In a dark house in Kathmandu, she and her aging grandfather toe up to it to look for her mother.

Episode #26: Perfectly

February 13, 2018 · Duration: 44:50 · Play

Sometimes, it all just falls into place. For Megan and Clark, a one-week span showed how things can work out perfectly to create the best days of your life… and the worst.

Episode #25: The Broken Places

February 6, 2018 · Duration: 45:55 · Play

When the world breaks everything, when everything is The Absolute Worst, you’re lucky if you have people to lean on. You’re even luckier if they’re your siblings. Meet Alex, David and Liza Achilli. Which… I really wanted to call this episode The Achilli’s Heal, but I just… I couldn’t do it. Or could I?

Episode #24: Incompatible With Life

December 12, 2017 · Duration: 35:43 · Play

At 32 weeks pregnant, Cat and Jim find themselves planning for their son’s death while hoping for his birth. This is a story of a life and a death, extraordinary in every way.

Episode #23: Live with Dessa, Alyssa Limperis and Geoffrey Wilson

December 5, 2017 · Duration: 52:16 · Play

TTFA is live from the historic Fitzgerald Theater in downtown St. Paul, MN! Featuring conversation with writer/rapper/entrepreneur Dessa, who took to science to overcome a bad love. And with comedian Alyssa Limperis, whose father died of glioblastoma. So funny! Plus, music from the amazing composer of our theme song, Geoffrey Wilson.

Episode #22: Happy(ish) Holidays II

November 28, 2017 · Duration: 52:31 · Play

Lauren’s brother died at Thanksgiving. And her mother at Christmas. So… this time of year it’s not all Ho Ho Ho for her. Or for a lot of other people. Because the Holidays can really and truly suck for some. So we’re back with our second annual Holiday radio extravaganza that will once again bedazzle […]

Episode #21: Introducing Childhood

November 21, 2017 · Duration: 28:58 · Play

Malena is 10 years old, and she worries a lot. About her grades. About her procrastination. About her dad. Especially about her dad. Kids are the best. They’re smart and funny and deeply empathetic. And they – and their thoughts and feelings – deserve to be taken seriously. Why are we saying this? Because we […]

Episode #20: The Truth We Live

November 14, 2017 · Duration: 36:48 · Play

Amee doesn’t have a dad. But she used to. He was the best. He was the worst. And he claims that he doesn’t remember any of it.

Episode #19: What Does All This Loss Mean?

November 7, 2017 · Duration: 48:30 · Play

Dead sister. Dead grandma. Dead grandpa. Dead uncle. Dead mom. Dead dad. Dead brother. The list of loss goes on and on for Jaamil, and so does his list of professional accolades and accomplishments as he moves from trauma to post-traumatic enlightenment.

Episode #18: Chapter 2

October 31, 2017 · Duration: 35:03 · Play

Hope and Aaron died on the exact same day. Each leaving behind their spouse, their child, and all the love their small families had created. Nearly three years later, their spouses have remarried. But don’t you dare say they’ve moved on.

7: Unbroken (#metoo)

October 24, 2017 · Duration: 47:57 · Play

Sexual violence thrives in silence, and it’s hard to talk about… so we don’t. But rape survivor Sarah Super refuses to be quiet, and has dedicated her life to helping other survivors Break the Silence. If you or someone you know has experienced sexual assault, you can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.

Episode #17: Esther Perel Live at Now Hear This Festival

October 17, 2017 · Duration: 50:58 · Play

If you are or ever plan to be in a relationship, you need to know Esther Perel, The Patron Saint of Relationships. Known for her TED Talks, her brilliant book, Mating in Captivity, and her captivating podcast, Where Should We Begin?, Esther believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. Your life […]

Episode #16: Forever Alone? (Part 2)

October 10, 2017 · Duration: 39:36 · Play

In our last episode, we met chronically single Chelsea, who was looking for love in all the same places we all look for love… and coming up empty-handed. Now, we meet Chelsea’s new boyfriend (!!!!) and explore what happens when the love we find isn’t what we expected.

Episode #15: Forever Alone? (Part 1)

October 3, 2017 · Duration: 35:59 · Play

As the saying goes, “There’s a lid for every pot.” There’s someone for everyone. Chelsea has been looking for her lid — her someone — since high school. Nearly 15 years after her only real relationship ended, she still hasn’t found her person. It’s not like she hasn’t been trying, and it’s not like her […]

Episode #14: Best Friends Forever

September 25, 2017 · Duration: 33:12 · Play

There are friendships, and there are FRIENDSHIPS of the all-caps variety. The latter ones are harder to forge the older you get. Which is what Janya is struggling with after the loss of her best friend, Michele.

Episode #13: Baby Huey

September 20, 2017 · Duration: 35:38 · Play

Courtney and Jay are parents to 9-year-old Bruce, who they affectionately call Baby Huey. Bruce has never had a friend. Never had a playdate. Never been invited to a birthday party. What. The. Heck.

Episode #LIVE SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT: The Honeymoon’s Over

September 18, 2017 · Duration: 6:35 · Play

Nora is back from her honeymoon with a special announcement – TTFA is doing a live show!! (Plus this week’s episode will be out on Wednesday – so stay tuned!) TTFA LIVE!!! In person!! Hear us perform an episode right in front of your face! November 17, 2017 at the historic Fitzgerald Theater in St. […]

Episode #12: Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring it Out

September 11, 2017 · Duration: 45:47 · Play

Harris Wittels was the executive producer of “Parks and Recreation,” the coiner of the word “humblebrag,” a Phish enthusiast, and the funniest person in any room he walked into. He died of a heroin overdose in 2015, leaving behind his mother, his sister, and a lifetime of talent and potential.

Episode #11: The Ending Matters

September 6, 2017 · Duration: 43:38 · Play

How do you want to die? We’re willing to bet the answer isn’t, “Very painfully, please!” Brittany Maynard was 29 when she died of brain cancer. Aaron Purmort was 35 when he died of the same thing. But their paths to death were very different. Nearly three years later, Brittany’s husband, Dan, and Aaron’s wife, […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season: Episode 9: Love Hurts

July 19, 2017 · Duration: 41:04 · Play

When Lea Thau’s fiancé left her, she felt all the feelings. Then she had their baby, and decided to start dating again. But, despite going out, nothing seemed to be clicking. Over and over. And eventually, she wanted to know why. Why didn’t men want to keep dating her? So she asked them. And recorded […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season: Episode 8: Dear Grown-ups

June 13, 2017 · Duration: 37:07 · Play

What do you wish your grown-ups had said to you when you were a kid? Especially while dealing with really hard stuff? We wanted to know, so we asked the Terrible Club – listeners who support the show – and they had some thoughts. Geez da wheeze, did they have some thoughts. You can join […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season Ep 7: Naomi + Khaleel

June 7, 2017 · Duration: 27:04 · Play

Khaleel Thompson is an 18-year-old who loves music, reading, and his cat, Domino. Naomi is his mother, asking why four police officers fired more than 12 rounds at her son in a public park two weeks ago, leaving him in critical condition. The two of them are the humans behind a news headline – caught […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season Ep 6: 19 Hours Ago

April 25, 2017 · Duration: 40:54 · Play

Grief is always fresh for someone, somewhere. Right now, someone is losing a friend. A partner. A parent. And they are entering a new role, a new relationship to their loved one, and to the world. Holly felt that grief. And she came in to share it with us. Fresh and undiluted. Just hours into […]

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season Ep 5: To Michael

April 17, 2017 · Duration: 19:24 · Play

When someone dies, you’re supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to summarize this person, prove that they existed, that they mattered. But what do you say when a complicated person dies after a complicated life?

Episode #TTFA Mini-Season Ep 4: Is It OK?

April 10, 2017 · Duration: 21:21 · Play

Alysha-Aubrey sent us a story about both her parents falling seriously ill at the same time, and the toll it took on her as a teenager. And she ended her story with a question about whether or not it’s OK that she doesn’t feel OK. Even though her family has recovered from trauma and is doing OK. […]